The Question is:
“How do we get on the same page and
start working together?”
For couples to be on the same page at a deeper and more meaningful level it is helpful to know and be clear about what you both want from your life and relationship together.
It is important for couples to have both individual and joint goals and dreams that are aligned to your inner values and desires.
A great way to explore this is to take some time out and ask yourself some questions eg:
- What does my ideal/meaningful life and relationship look and feel like?
- What is important to me in the area of love, family, health, money, career, friends, contribution, hobbies, community etc?
- What dreams must I fulfill this life time? (Travel, bucket list)
- What is really important to me? What do I stand for? (values, parenting etc)
- What does retirement look like to me? What age? Where do you want to retire?
- What are my 101 top goals to achieve this life?
- What do I want to achieve in the next 12 months / 3 years / 5 years ?
Once you have your answers, book some uninterrupted time in and share with each other.
Listen to each other without judgement, evaluation or opinion.
Be curious, learn and understand.
Find your common ground and start to plan a life together that is in alignment with both your deepest desires and values.
Still work on your individual goals independently and support each other in the achievement of these.
When you have done this exercise, it makes it easier to work together on the same page as you are inspired, excited and know where you are going.
You have common goals and are plugged into them. Decision making also becomes easier as if it’s not in alignment with your goals and dreams it’s an easy no.
When we explore and know what is truly meaningful to us on inner level it makes it possible to then share this information with each other. This information gives you a roadmap and direction to move forward together creating a life and relationship that is enjoyable, fun, fulfilling and meaningful.
A side note: It is totally ok to have different goals and dreams. The trick is to support each other in achieving your desires and dreams.
This is how you work together, plugged into what is deeply important to you both. On the same page, moving in the same direction, holding each other’s hands.
Your Challenge: Schedule two times in your calendar in the next week
- With yourself to answer the questions above and any others you think of.
- Together – share what you discovered and start planning your future together
Have a wonderful day.
Stay amazing, be kind, be loving and most of all have fun together.
Much love
Debbrah Oxby
The Relationship Collective